I don’t think I need to tell you that marrying someone is perhaps the most important decision you’ll ever make. You will live, sleep, eat, travel, and spend the majority of your leisure time together for the rest of your lives.
I don’t know about you, but that’s a lot of time spent with just one individual! Thus, when you make that selection, it’s understandable that you want to make the proper choice since it would be dreadful to wind up with someone who is disrespectful, arrogant, and selfish.
Yet that can happen if you’re not careful. Even egotistical idiots are endearing. They live on obtaining what they desire, and if that desire is you, you may not be in the best position to see through them.
Here are seven tendencies in people that I believe you should avoid. Please keep in mind that this is only my viewpoint. That could differ for you.
1) They don’t trust you completely.
Are they doubting your explanation for what you do while you’re not with them? Are they continuously questioning your decision-making abilities? Or are they perplexed by the way you’ve lived your life before they met you?
These queries indicate that they not only do not understand you but also do not trust you. Any effective partnership is built on trust. Without it, there is no freedom or room for the relationship to develop.
2) He dislikes children.
Every grown man who despises children is devoid of empathy and zest for life. How can anyone dislike youngsters who are inquisitive, entertaining, live in the now, and communicate all of their emotions?
That could only be a man who takes himself too seriously. Finally, if you intend to have children with them, will they be a decent father?
3) He doesn’t do what he says he’ll do.
If he claims he’ll be home at 8 p.m. but then stays out drinking with the lads until 11 p.m., you need to talk to him. You should be concerned if he does these things on a regular basis.
These behaviors imply that his words have no meaning. You literally can’t communicate because you’re not sure if he’ll do what he says. Who would want to spend their entire lives with someone like that?
4) He doesn’t pay attention to what you’re saying.
Certainly, he might ask, “How’s your day been?” but does he genuinely listen to you when you have a tale to tell or a problem to solve? Or does he believe that his life is more important than yours?
If he likes the sound of his voice but not the sound of yours, it’s a big red flag that this guy won’t add anything to your life. Listening, understanding, and assisting each other are the foundations of every healthy relationship, and if he can’t actively listen to what you’re going through, you should really reconsider your relationship with him.
5) He is always in competition with you.
Is he reviving fights? Refuses to admit his error, even though it defies logic? You’ll never win with someone like her, no matter what you do. Instead of viewing your partnership as a team that will conquer the globe, he sees you as a competitor to be defeated.
He won’t be happy if you make more money than him or beat him in a morning jog. In those moments, his toxic energy will be the only thing that shines.
Partnerships aren’t about competing against one another. They are about growing, sustaining, and cherishing your love for one another.
6) He continues to flirt with other girls.
If you see him texting girls or talking with girls at the bar while you’re there, I think we both know he has the potential to be an unfaithful jerk. Partnerships are hard work, and if he spends his free time chatting up girls, he isn’t fully devoted to you.
Flirting is not acceptable, regardless of planet. If he truly loves you, all of his affection should be directed only towards you! Women are naturally drawn to “players,” yet it only takes a split second to determine whether he is a self-centered jerk or not.
7) He is very attached.
Is he continually messaging you to find out where you are and what you’re up to? Is he unable to allow you out of his sight?
It’s fine to be affectionate, but there’s a line you shouldn’t cross since it will make your life worse. If he can’t operate normally without your affection or attention, it’s a symptom that he’s in an unhealthy relationship.
We all require our own lives as well as the ability to be happy inside ourselves. You can’t rely on others to make you happy.
You want to grow together, but in a way that benefits both of your lives. Instead, you’ll be trapped in an unhealthy, controlling, manipulative, and shackled relationship.