Looking for love is an exciting adventure. You get to meet new people, go out and have fun dates, and maybe, just maybe, meet the love of your life. But dating can also be a huge bummer, and there are times when the journey is more frustrating than fun, especially as you get older.
Instead of focusing on having an enjoyable night out, you’re wondering why you can’t seem to find Mr. or Ms. Right. To get a great relationship, you have to be willing to put in the work.
But what should you do when you feel yourself giving up on love? Don’t let your desire for love burn out! Here are six reasons you shouldn’t give up on love.
1. Love Teach Lessons
Going through another failed relationship can be a frustrating, heartbreaking, and depressing experience. But remember that timing is everything. Just because that love is over doesn’t mean love is over for you.
Instead of viewing your failed relationships as a waste of time, list everything you learned from those relationships. Perhaps you learned how to talk about your feelings and be vulnerable with someone else, and maybe you knew that looks aren’t everything.
If the relationship was toxic, maybe you learned that you’re stronger than you thought.  Perhaps you knew what you didn’t want and would not tolerate in future relationships. Whatever the case may be, take the lessons that love gives you and treasure them.
2. You Have the Time to Grow
Your single years are about learning who you are and growing from each experience you go through. If your ultimate goal is to get married, why not use this time to grow and develop skills and traits that would make you a great husband or wife?
For example, can you cook? Do you have a job? Can you handle your finances well? Do you have your own house or apartment? Are you patient? Do you know how to express your feelings well? Do you have selfish tendencies?
These are better than simply giving up on love. Now is the time to self-examine and work out who you want to be for yourself, your friends, your family, and your future partner.
3. Now Is the Time for You
There is no better time to be a little selfish with your pursuits, energy, and focus than while you are single. Now is the time for you to take strides toward your dream career, travel, and focus on your social life. Of course, you can still do these things when you are in a relationship, but love has the potential to be limiting.
There’s no doubt it’s worth it, but you can’t travel the world for months when you’re helping your partner pay a mortgage or raising a family. At least, you can’t do it as quickly as you would when you are single.
Friendships are also meaningful. These people have supported you through every good and bad decision you’ve ever made. They were your shoulder to cry on when your relationships ended and your dates ended up being duds. Use this time as an excuse to focus on yourself and discover who you are when you aren’t part of a “we.”
Not only will this be good for your mental health and personal growth, but your confidence in yourself will also appeal to your future partner.
4. You Deserve More Than Settling
If you want to find real love, you must be willing to stick it out for your perfect person instead of settling! When you wait to meet the perfect person for you, your personalities will gel.
If you haven’t found it yet, then why settle? You deserve the best relationship possible, so don’t give up on love yet. If it takes waiting a bit longer to find someone who hits all the checkmarks on your list, why not wait?
5. Things Worth Doing Are Rarely Easy
Think about it. The best things in life—the things that make you feel accomplished, proud of yourself, and inspired to do better—are always tricky: getting a degree, running with endurance, getting fit or losing weight, breaking a bad habit, learning something new like scuba diving or how to speak another language…
These things take time, but you feel satisfied after completing the challenge. The same can be said for finding the right relationship. Deciding to wait for someone who fulfills you instead of dating the first person who asks all because you’re lonely takes strength. It takes courage to break up with someone you love who is ultimately destructive for you. It takes effort to be patient. But you’ll be glad that you did.
6. It Only Takes One
I remember telling my mother I was lonely. Agonisingly lonely. And do you know what she told me? “It only takes one.” These magic words couldn’t be more accurate. Your date last Friday sucked, and you’ll never see that guy again, but you know what? The next guy could be the one. That next date could be when you feel chemistry like never before. It only takes one person to steal your heart and change your world.
Think about it. You could meet the love of your life in a week and be with them for the rest of your life. If that happens, wouldn’t you look back on the time when you were single and remember being happy? That you enjoy your time alone? Your single years could be a blip on the radar compared to the years you’ll share with your husband or wife. So enjoy it. Don’t give up on love because it only takes one.
Finding love isn’t always easy. It can be discouraging and sometimes even feel like a full-time job—but don’t give up! Resilience is the key to finding love. Enjoy the journey, focus on self-care and personal growth, and absorb the lessons each relationship and new date has to teach.