Are you looking for ways to feel better about yourself? If you didn’t feel confident, you wouldn’t be reading this article about it. Look, it’s not easy to go about our daily lives feeling brave and sure of ourselves.
If it were, there wouldn’t be a need for the thousands of books, courses, and blogs that deal with the subject. But that isn’t true. People want to learn how to be more confident, and this is likely to always be the case.
Why? Because hundreds of thousands of people wish they could keep their confidence high, but they often fail. How do I know? We know this because Google says so. Just look at how many people look for ways to boost their confidence every month:
So What Are The Causes?
Strangely, the Chapman University Survey of American Fears shows that some of the reasons for low confidence and fear are public situations, while this UK report shows that other reasons are personal problems that many young people face.
The Chapman Survey shows a sample of 1,207 adults from all over the US. This shows that people’s top fears are related to things that are important to the public. While UK statistics show that over 60% of girls aged 10–17 have low self-esteem, which makes them feel bad about themselves,
On top of that, research has shown that there aren’t many differences between men and women when it comes to self-esteem. meaning that both men and women struggle with confidence.
In short, everyone needs to be sure of themselves in order to feel good and do well. Everyone should have enough confidence to live a good life, whether they are an entrepreneur, a professional, a student, or a leader. And the good news is that there are lots of easy ways for all of us to boost our confidence.
So, the rest of this article will show you some easy ways to be more sure of yourself. Are you all set? Let’s go….
1. Face your fears and doubts. Fear is a feeling of threat or danger that you think might happen. It’s also a bad feeling, but it’s a natural one that helps us stay alive, so it’s not all bad. Some experts in psychology even say that fear is a form of mental energy or an abstraction.
But no matter what your fear is, nothing can make you afraid unless you give it permission. Because of this, it is always best to face your fears instead of running away from them. In reality, whenever a situation or problem seems scary, you can either face it or run away from it.
If you choose the second option, it won’t make things better for you. In fact, it could lead to things you don’t want, like missing out on dating your dream guy or girl, never getting that promotion, or missing out on an opportunity that could have made you money. “If you don’t risk anything, you won’t gain anything,” is a wise saying.
2. Try to think positively:
Positive thinking has a lot of great benefits. When you think positively, you give yourself more power and become more hopeful about more things. Really, you can do anything if you think you can.
This is why you should make it a habit to think positively. If you want to keep your confidence, you have to train yourself to think positively every day. Think about this: Whenever you think negatively about a problem, you’ll notice that it changes how you feel about yourself and the world almost right away.
Even a small bad feeling can definitely ruin your whole day. But if you force yourself to think positively, you make it less likely that negative thoughts will win.
Just by choosing to be more positive, you can change your whole outlook on life in a big way, and this will definitely change how you act in your day-to-day interactions.
So, even though there are dangerous situations and bad news out there, try to keep a positive attitude. Try to see the good side of everything. Don’t talk about how you feel when you’re upset.
Try to get rid of the things you thought were bad in your past, because, believe it or not, bad memories tend to form a negativity bias, and we humans are wired to think about them all the time. So, if you do these things, you’ll soon start to think more positively, which will make you feel more confident.
3. Talk to Yourself: Sometimes it seems silly and impossible to talk to yourself. It’s not, though. A documentary called “The Human Brain” says that every person says between 300 and 1000 words to himself or herself every day. We really do talk to ourselves every day, whether we are aware of it or not.
Talking to yourself also helps you be real, which means being honest with yourself. In fact, when we’re honest with ourselves, we’re better able to figure out what we can and can’t do. This gives us a whole new level of confidence.
For example, if I’m trained as a businessperson but try to write a good article for Forbes.com or the Wall Street Journal, it’s possible that my articles will be rejected over and over again. And, of course, this rejection would probably make me feel worse about myself.
But it would help me and my confidence if I hired someone who is good at writing. So, it’s important to always know who you are and to “be real” about your skills and what you can do. By doing this, you’ll only do things you’re actually good at, which will help you keep your confidence.
4. Separate Facts from Memory: Our neurons tend to absorb more of those memories and experiences that have occurred in the past. This means that the more we think about the things that went wrong in the past, the less confident we’ll be when we try to do something similar in the future.
So, if you really want to do something, it’s important to remember that you can do it and to look at your past to learn how you can improve your chances of doing it in the future. Even if you’ve failed in the past, that doesn’t mean you can’t get your head above the murky waters of the past.
For example, if Thomas Edison had thought about the nine hundred and ninety-nine times he had failed and the fact that he could still invent the light bulb, he might not have been able to try the thousandth time, which was successful and led to the light bulbs we use in our homes and streets today.
So, forget what you remember; don’t think about them, especially if you can’t. The only thing you should do with your memory is figure out how to improve your methods so that the next time you try to do something, you get better results.
In reality, your past does shape who you are and what you can become. Also, try to remember the good things, but don’t let them make you feel like you’ve done enough. Instead, be more confident by remembering your past successes and knowing that you can learn from the past to change the future.
Conclusion:—— Confidence is the key to making progress in life and being successful. And now you know you can add some new tools to your confidence toolkit. So, are you ready to feel better about yourself?
Remember that everyone who has been successful has had to find the courage to reach the goals they set for themselves. So, if you want to make more progress, achieve more, and be more successful, you’ll need to step into that more confident future you.
Thank you: The Strive